Seriously, a whole weekend?

Hey, we don't need you to come to an engagement party or buy us engagement presents. We don't expect you to come to bridal showers or to fly somewhere exotic and spend a million bucks attending our bachelorette parties. We don't even want you to buy us wedding presents - we already have a lot of stuff, and minimalist Em is challenged enough by Dom's assorted tchotchkes!

What we DO want is for you to come spend as much of the weekend as you can with us in a beautiful part of the world we've specifically chosen because it will suit all our friends and family, with or without kids. Take it as an opportunity to wind down and relax for a few days. Turn it into a family or friends weekend away - go for a forest walk, a swim under the waterfall, check out the glowworms at Natural Bridge, chill in a hammock under a tree, bring some instruments and sing next to a roaring campfire under the stars. Those of you coming solo or in small numbers, chat to us about bringing along a friend (or your kid's friend) so you can spend a great weekend with them too.

If you're right now thinking you'll just come for the ceremony and not stay the weekend, we do understand if that's truly unavoidable, but can we implore you to try to work it out? We love each other and we love you, and we'd really appreciate it if you would put this time aside to spend with us.

Do we have to camp out?

We've paid for cabin accommodation and catered meals for you and your crew at the site for the weekend, but if you'd rather bring along a tent to camp in, ask us to hire you a glamping tent, or if you want to find your own private accommodation on the mountain, that can be arranged too. Lots more details are on the Location page and Bornhoffen's official website, please make sure you read them.

How are you going to pull this off?

We will need your help to pull this off - it'll be a very non-traditional wedding and a big undertaking. We'll need our handy friends to help us set up and pack down. We'll need our parent friends to look after their own kids (or join forces with other parents to share the load). If you have specific skills that could make this weekend awesome, please tell us about them when you RSVP. We'll need everyone to help us tidy up the site before we leave - this is a beautiful, natural place we should be leaving as or better than we found it. Even if you're only staying for part of the weekend, please make sure your cabin or camping area is left in good shape.

What's the timeline of the weekend?

• Em and Dom will be arriving at Bornhoffen at 2PM on Friday 16th.

• On Friday afternoon and evening we'll be setting shade structures up, stringing fairy lights, etc, generally making the place look a bit shiny. We'd love your help if you can be there.

• On Saturday morning we'll keep setting up, and arrange an outdoor adventure activity if there is enough interest.

• On Saturday afternoon we'll do the official ceremony, followed by feasting, fires and music into the night.

• On Sunday morning we'll likely be recovering from our middle-aged hangovers, sleeping in, swinging in hammocks, swimming in the pool and generally lazing about. Some of you will no doubt be jogging up and down the mountain like the healthy freaks of nature you are.

• On Sunday afternoon we'll arrange another outdoor adventure activity if there is enough interest, and in a leisurely fashion start packing some of the site up so we're not rushing on Monday morning. We'd appreciate your help if you can.

• On Monday morning we'll finish packing up and cleaning the site and depart by midday at the latest. Again, your help is appreciated.

We realise not all of you will be able to arrive on Friday and/or depart on Monday, but we'd appreciate you being with us as long as you can.

What's the dress code?

On Saturday afternoon you can almost guarantee Em will look very sparkly indeed, and probably have a costume change or two. But considering you're camping all weekend, let's describe the dress code for the ceremony as 'whatever you feel comfortable yet pretty and don't mind being immortalised in photographs in'. The rest of the weekend is a free for all. Bring a hat?

Can I bring my dog/cat/goat?

As animal lovers ourselves, we're deeply sorry to say, no. Unless your pet is a service animal you can't function without, I'm afraid we can't have your furbabies along on this site. You can bring your skinbabies, though.

Is there alcohol on site?

Saturday afternoon/night’s booze after the ceremony is on us. If you’d like to BYO more booze to drink at other times across the weekend, please do so. You can store it in the fridges and cupboards in the two commercial-grade kitchens onsite.

How far will we be from civilisation, and the nearest shops?

Bornhoffen is in the Nerang Hinterlands, about 35 minutes drive from Nerang itself. That's how long it will take you to get the snacks you forgot to bring. It is also how long it would take to get to the nearest doctor.

Is there power?

The cabins are powered. The campsites won't be.

Is there WiFi?

Nope! We'll see if we can arrange a mobile hotspot, but assume there will not be WiFi. There is phone signal, although it's not the strongest and best you'll ever see. We're in nature, make the most of it. Download some shows and music to your phone before you leave, maybe?

Is there a noise curfew at night?

That's the beauty of a) being middle aged, and b) day drinking - we'll all be exhausted and done by 9:30 or 10PM. Yes, we'll ask everyone to keep it quiet in the family cabins/campsite after 10PM, and 10:30 in the non-family cabins/campsite.

What's the accessibility of the site like?

There will be some parts of the site which would be inaccessible to people with mobility issues, but the majority of the site, especially the cabins, is accessible.